Monday, October 10, 2016
Hello everyone! My name is Rita Gehman, with Intuitive Woods, and today I want to talk to you about why the United States of America is the most powerful country in the world!
We own everything, we have the best military, we have the highest technology, we have the richest people, we have the largest number of rich people, we have the strongest economy, we have the strongest force of will, we have our natural strength!
So, a lot of people think that all of these symptoms are actually causes, that we are strong because we have a good military, because we have rich people, because so on and so forth.
I would say that those are all symptoms.
All of those wonderful things that we have that we the U.S. have more than other countries, I think that those are all symptoms. Those are all side effects of the actual cause.
I believe that the reason why America is the strongest country in the world is that we give basic, a lot, not just basic freedoms, but a wide variety of basic freedoms to average people.
Average people, average Joes, regular people are the ones that come up with the big ideas and then skyrocket things into world class entrepreneurs and business owners and CEOs and the most powerful people in the world of the most powerful nation in the world.
But, those people didn't start out that way. Those people were not born that way, they did not get in that way. They started out as regular people, average Joes, and because the United States has a system which allows anybody, anywhere in the U.S. to go from average to skyrocketing, everybody in our nation has the potential for doing that. And I believe that we have a set system which allows that to happen.
I believe that is the reason why America is the most powerful country in the world.
I believe all the other good things, the excellent military, the excellent technology, the vast amount of riches, the vast number of rich people, the vast number of economic freedoms and economic flexibility, the easy access to really thorough and well endowed higher education, all of these wonderful things. I believe that all of these things are symptoms of the fact, of the real cause, which is that we have a system, we have a structure which supports the average Joe, which supports the regular person in America that allows them to skyrocket their own career and, if they are business owners and entrepreneurs, the careers of all of the people around them, as well.
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Hello everyone! My name is Rita Gehman, and this video is for men.
Guys, I'm sure you want to understand why women get the way we get during out time of the month and what exactly that involves.
Also, guys, this may be a little bit scary for men, but don't worry about it. I'm going to walk you through it really, really carefully, so just come in, sit down, have a beer, have some tea, have some coffee, and let's just chat about this and I'll explain everything to you guys.
Okay, guys, women have a two week cycle. Every two weeks, we either have ovulation, which is when we really are great and when we're most likely to get pregnant, but we can also second most likely to get pregnant during menstruation, which happens the other two weeks!
So, we have one week of ovulation, and then two weeks later, we have menstruation, and then two weeks later we have ovulation and then two weeks later we have menstruation.
Just so you know, ovulation has a little bit of pinking or bleeding sometimes, just a little bit. Sometimes, we wear pads during that time of the month if our bodies are like that.
Also, you should understand that if you value virginity and you value that sort of thing, you should understand that a woman's hymen, which is the piece of tissue that people usually determine to see if she is a virgin or not, you should understand that a broken hymen does not mean that she lost her virginity. And an in tact hymen does not mean that she didn't lose her virginity. It's not a definite test for virginity either way.
For example, girls who are more active, who run around or are in athletics a lot, and girls who are simply just walking around, their hymen can break just from walking, just from regular walking around.
Depending upon the kind of person, we all have different bodies, and so that's definitely something that can happen to a girl.
So, that does not mean that she's not a virgin.
On the other hand, sometimes when people have not had sex for a long time, that tissue can actually grow back enough to where, not completely necessarily, but enough to where you would feel it if you broke it again.
So, that might seem like there's virginity when there's not.
So, guys, if you're one of those guys that thinks that one equals the other, it doesn't.
So, that's just a big old mess. Just forget about that.
If you don't trust your woman, don't fucking marry her!
Period. End of story.
If you do trust her, accept her the way she is! And move on with your life!
Move on with both of your lives.
Alright, now when it comes to menstruation, what happens is in order for a woman to have good, fresh, solid material for making a baby, she needs to keep her uterus really clean!
So, once a month, her uterus actually creates a new lining underneath the lining that it had, and it allows the old lining to detach from the wall of the uterus, and it comes out in the vagina.
It is bloody. Sometimes a woman can have a period for two days and that's it. Some women can have a period for seven to eight days.
And the twenty eight day cycle is measured from the beginning of one period to the beginning of the next period.
So, it's measured from Day 1 of one period to Day 1 of the next period.
Some women are irregular and they just come at various times. Some women are regular.
So, that depends.
Now, if you've ever seen your woman or your girlfriend or your wife, if you've ever seen her change out her pads or tampons, you should understand that sometimes it's more than blood that comes out.
Sometimes, it's like these little globules, and they're black. And it's almost like clotted blood. They're not black, they're dark red. They're stained the color of blood.
This is actually the lining of the uterine wall.
It's kind of like Jell-O. It's kind of solid, but not really.
It's kind of gel-like. Sometimes, that comes out with the regular menstrual blood. That's just the lining of the uterine wall and it's just stained the color of blood. I believe normally it's actually clear, clear colored.
So, it comes out. And that tends to come out in pieces, not all at once. And they're just little pieces, here and there.
Some women use tampons. And by the way, using a tampon can actually affect a hymen, one way or the other, so make sure that you understand, that you're not bringing any judgment.
And, to be honest, you shouldn't be so concerned about a woman's virginity that that's what you're focusing on, because if that's what you're focusing on, let me tell you something, marriage is going to throw you for a loop.
Long term relationships are going to throw you for a loop.
You're not going to be able to handle anything in marriage if you're that uptight and that stressed about somebody's virginity.
If you don't accept her the way she is, whether or not she's a virgin, then you're just not able to deal with or handle a long term relationship.
So, you probably shouldn't be marrying, yourself, anyway.
Okay, back to menstruation.
So, when a woman tells you to go to the store and get a certain product, either tampons or pads or both, have her describe the colors of the box to you.
That will really reduce the time you have to spend in the women's products aisle. Have her describe what colors.
If she has an old package that she's just run out of, whether it's in the trash, have her show it to you.
Have her show you what it looks like.
Write it down on a notepad, so that you don't have to remember when you get to the store. It will probably irritate her more if you ask her all these details, and then you're calling her at the store to confirm things. Just write it the fuck down!
Some pads, say if it was Always pads, and it was blue, and it was Overnight, that would be orange, so it's a blue and orange package.
If she likes Kotex then that's black and purple, or it's purple and white.
It all depends upon which version of Kotex she uses.
She will probably tell you "with or without wings."
So, the wings are an adhesive strip that go around the edge of the panties, and a lot of times women prefer pads with wings, because it prevents blood from seeping over into the edge of the pad, and actually running along the edge and seeping up onto the edge of the panty.
So, it actually protects the panty from blood that would actually fill up the pad and then spill over a little bit onto the side.
So, wings really matter!
If she doesn't say anything, get her wings automatically.
If she says with wings, get her wings. If she says, without wings, don't.
But get her wings automatically. That should be the first thing you should do.
If she asks for tampons, if she asks for pads, always make sure that you get the strength that she wants.
Sometimes they're light, sometimes they're medium, sometimes they're heavy, sometimes they're super heavy.
That's in both pads and tampons.
You need to get something that she prefers.
Some women, they have a light period, and they really want to have very light weight padding and tampons, because they don't like to feel like there's a big diaper down there.
Some women are the opposite in experience.
They have a really heavy flow, and they're constantly freaking out about, Oh God! Is this leaking or not?
They really want to feel like they have a diaper down there!
They really want to feel like, Oh my God! I have huge, ultra protection underneath me taking care of my heavy flow!
Yes! This is good!
So, guys, always remember that what she's dealing with is a very personal thing, it's a very private thing.
Mocking it, making fun of it, making jokes about it, complaining about it, talking to other people about it, complaining to other people about it, ALL of those are enormous forms of disrespect!
It's kind of like if somebody walked up to you and said, Hey! Do you trust your wife? With the implication that your wife is cheating on you or something like that. That would be extremely insulting to you. You would know that that's a good time to punch this guy in the face!
Well, when you do that about your wife, she wants to punch you in the face, because you're being THAT LEVEL of disrespectful to her.
This is a very private, personal thing that she's going through, once a month, and mocking it, making jokes about it, being disrespectful about it, criticizing it, complaining about it, and ESPECIALLY if you talk to other people about it. Oh! It's ten times worse! It's SO insulting!
Don't pull that shit on women. Don't do that shit.
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Tuesday, October 4, 2016
Hello everyone! I'm Rita Gehman, with Intuitive Woods, and this question is from Rob.
Okay, let's see here.
He is asking... he has a long term girlfriend for six years and apparently they're not married yet and he wants to know if he needs to push for sex, because he wants more sex, but he wants to know if he needs to push for sex or if pushing would be too much, if it would be pushing over the line.
Okay, this is a very good question, and it's a question that a lot of guys I think have, but they don't feel comfortable asking, because they're afraid of the answer being No No No! Don't push her! Don't worry about that!
First of all, Rob, I want to say that if you've been with your girlfriend for six years, I sure hope you have a plan for marriage. I sure hope you have a plan for asking her. It's fine if you guys have talked about this, but if you have not talked about this, you may want to have a conversation with her about it. You may have to develop a plan. Maybe think about a proposal or something like that!
So, there is that aspect of it.
A woman will feel more amorous when she feels more secure. So, security helps women feel better. They have to feel secure in their environment, and they also have to feel secure within themselves. So think of those two things.
Right now, you're part of her environment, but also loving you as she does, you're part of her inner world, you're part of her sense of herself.
So, it's important that you understand that her desire to be wanted and loved goes hand in hand with her desire to have sex.
I'm assuming that she's not some needy, having sex with anybody to get love, so assuming that she is a well adjusted female, which most women are, most men are well adjusted men, assuming that's the case, then we're looking at a woman who has been with you for six years. Maybe the sex has become a little monotonous or not as often, maybe she's kind of thinking of it as a long term relationship which will hopefully come to marriage at some point, but she's kind of already acting like you're in the middle of a marriage. You've been married for a few years.
So, first of all, you need to make sure that you think about the proposal and you think about moving forward with the relationship. And do not tie sex with that. Do not tie those two things together. And if she promises things like that, don't take it too seriously, not because she wouldn't follow through, but because women still need to feel secure internally and externally when they have sex.
They need to feel secure in both worlds. If they don't, then they tend to kind of not be sure. They tend to have sex in desperation or they tend to withdraw from sex completely.
Okay, now if you're already having sex with her, you're just not having as much as you want, that's a different aspect. You can just ask to rev it up. You can step up your game a little bit. Come on, Rob! I mean, step up your game!
Women respond to men going all out for them.
So, step up your game, and keep it consistent.
It's okay to do special events and things like that, and you should do that, you should step up your game in that area, but also think of ways that you can kind of consistently keep your game at a higher level, from here on out.
It will add more interest to her life. She will feel richer, and that will definitely factor in levels of security, and a sense of self, self worth, and like that.
Now, of course, it's important to understand that everybody needs to have self worth within themselves, but they're romantic partner is really close. It's not like the level of YOU. You have to develop your own sense of self worth, and so does she. But your romantic partner is your complement. In a lot of places, they're your opposite gender, but even in same sex marriages and relationships, there's a complimentary aspect to it. So they are strengthening you in ways in which you may be weak.
So, if she doesn't feel secure in her relationship with you, or if you do not know her love language.... Rob, I would really recommend you go out and you get a book called The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman.
It's a really good book, and if you don't have the same love language as she does, then it will help you understand what her love language is, and you can connect with her more. And help her understand that you need more sex, more often!
Make sure that you have a proposal down and planned, or that you guys have talked about it and had a conversation and that you know where you're going. And have a plan! Don't just kind of meander along, thinking Oh! It will happen someday!
Don't pull that shit with women. We don't appreciate that half-assed approach. Think of ways to not only spike stepping up your game in special events and things with friends and family and things like that, things that make her feel special and appreciated, women really want to feel appreciated, but also think of ways to step up your game in realistic little increments where you can keep it consistently that way.
It will help make you feel better as a man, and it will make her feel better as a woman, and the two of you will be able to grow together, rather than just plateauing.
Rob, I really recommend that you push a little bit. You let her know what you need, but don't tie that with any type of reciprocation. Just tell her what you need. Tell her what you need. Tell her why you need it.
If she understands, then great! Your problem is fixed.
But, if she doesn't understand, then this could be an emotional issue. It could be tied to the fact that you're not married yet. You've been together for six years. Maybe you did have a plan, and maybe she doesn't feel like you're following through on the plan. Maybe she feels like you're not actually about to implement the plan.
Get the ball rolling!
Come on, Rob! Step up! Step up to the plate!
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My name is Rita Gehman, with Intuitive Woods, and this video is about what I believe is happening in Saudi Arabia today.
I actually believe that Saudi Arabia is about to change their laws.
So, stay tuned for more of this stuff.
Okay, this channel is about, my channel Rita Gehman, is about helping you develop security through understanding of life. Personal security through understanding of life.
I used to not have security and now I have it a lot, and I want to help other people.
So, back to the subject at hand.
I believe that Saudi Arabia is actually about to get rid of their capital punishment laws, or at least severely decrease them.
Laws that have people being beheaded in public squares for things like homosexuality.
I'm from the U.S. so over here it's legal to be homosexual and to marry and it's legal to actually get legally married as a gay or a lesbian here in the U.S.
Also, in Saudi Arabia, you would get beheaded for things like adultery. If you committed adultery you would be beheaded.
Things like fornication, I believe something like that actually required a lot of lashings.
But, anyway, there were different things.
I believe theft also caused a beheading, but that might be a lashing situation.
Rape constituted beheading.
As a woman, of course, I'm a little bit more in favor of that!
I believe what's happening....
and the reason why I believe that Saudi Arabia is about to change some of their capital punishment laws and replace them with either lashing or imprisonment or maybe deportation or some other type of punishment... the reason why I think this is because, in previous years, Saudi Arabia only executed.....
First of all, we have to understand that when somebody is sentenced and when somebody is executed.
For the past eighty years, for a long time, the rate of sentencing has been about four or five per year.
We're not talking about executions here, we're talking about sentencing.
So, if somebody was sentenced to be executed, a lot of times they would be put in prison, awaiting execution.
Okay, maybe it wasn't quite that small, but the execution was still a lot less than the sentencing.
The execution rate was maybe ten people, twenty people per year, but that was it.
And the United States has an even higher execution rate and we don't execute very many people, so Saudi Arabia, you're still in the Western World's good eyes, positive light, everything like that, so far on that.
The sentencing is higher than the number of executions.
So, let's say forty people were executed that year, but eighty people were sentenced, were actually sentenced to be put to death that year.
Okay, eighty people out of hundreds of millions of people is a very, very small number of people, so I don't want to hear any crap about people saying, Oh, these people! Capital punishment is so bad!
There is, I believe, a time and a place for that.
I think what makes Saudi Arabia's capital punishment so controversial is that they do public executions. Now, they say it's for a deterrent, they use it as a deterrent, but to be honest, I don't care so much about the deterrent. To me, that's a good reason to do it, as that I do believe that, if you're going to execute somebody, it shouldn't necessarily be in a hidden, private location.
In the U.S. there is always a limited number of people who are allowed to see the execution of somebody here in the U.S. and it is, in my view, taped, but it's not live streamed or anything like that.
Large crowds can't gather around and see it.
I do think that if you're going to execute somebody, bringing it out in the open and honestly.... not that the U.S. does it dishonestly or anything, they're very valid, but I do believe that Saudi Arabia has a bit more of an open situation.
When people die, we mourn openly rather than inside. I believe that's better for people and humanity. And if you're going to execute somebody, I believe doing it in front of a whole bunch of people could also be healthier for everyone involved. For both the people being executed and for the people who are watching the execution. I believe it can be healthier to actually have everything like that out in the open.
But, anyway, the reason why I think that Saudi Arabia is about to change its capital punishment laws is for a couple of reasons.
Number one, they have been sentencing a lot more people to die over the past eighty years than have actually been executed.
Actually, a small number of people have been executed every year compared with the number of people who have been sentenced. I would say about double. Double numbers of the sentenced.
That's my first clue.
Second of all, in the last two years, all of a sudden, Saudi Arabia's execution rate has sky rocketed!
What had been about forty people per year executed has now reach over a hundred and sixty people per year.
I think last year, 2015, it was a hundred and fifty, and we're not even done with 2016 yet, and I believe there have been over a hundred and sixty.
Hold on now.
The rate of sentencing has NOT increased. In fact, in the last ten to twenty years, it's even decreased down to almost nil, down to just about two people per year.
I mean, they sentence people very, very seldom these days.
But, the execution rates have suddenly sky rocketed.
So, here's what I think is happening.
I think that Saudi Arabia is about to change their capital punishment laws, and they are making sure that people who had been sentenced to death are not grandfathered in under the new laws.
I think they're about to change their capital punishment laws and I think they're getting rid of people who have been waiting and they're emptying their coffers and they are going ahead and executed pretty much everybody who has been waiting to be executed and they're cleaning out their coffers so that they can bring in the new laws without those people being grandfathered in under the new system.
That's what I think has happened.
By the way, Saudi Arabia, I think it's a great plan.
I do support public execution, but I also support what the U.S. does. I think that each country and each culture has their own way of doing things, so I support both sides.
But, Saudi Arabia, I do agree with what you're doing.
I do agree that some offenses are not capital punishment offenses.
Again, I think if somebody kills somebody, that's a good reason to get executed. I do agree that rape may be a capital punishment offense. But, things like adultery. I believe that's more of a relationship thing. Something that's between husband and wife.
Things like homosexuality, I believe that's a personal freedom and a personal choice between that person and God.
So, I personally support what you're doing, if that is in fact what you're doing.
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Hello everyone! I'm Rita Gehman, with Intuitive Woods.
And this video is about sex and emotions.
How they affect each other.
Okay, guys, my channel is about building security, building personal security, through understanding of life.
So, I hope I'm always building your personal security in my channel.
Okay, now, back to the subject at hand.
Sex and emotions involve so many back and forth components.
First of all, on the one hand, we have sexual activity which is, Oh, God! It feels so good. It's wonderful! It's great! It feels fantastic.
And a lot of people, when they first start having sex, they first start having sex for purely pleasurable reasons.
No other reasons.
Also, if you're attracted to somebody and you're really turned on by them, then having sex with that particular person... that's what sex is for you.
It's not sex with anyone. It's sex with that particular person who is so attracted to you, whether you're married to them or not at the time that you first have sex with them.
And then, on the other side, you have your emotions. You have your emotional connection. You have your heart connection.
How you feel about the other person. How you feel about yourself. How you feel about sex itself, sexual activity.
How you feel about sex within your culture, within your religion, within your society, within your views of right and wrong, within your views of God and what He would want, all the different aspects of emotional connection that can be supportive of each other and also those emotions can also be conflicting, where you love the other person. Maybe you're even married to the other person.
But, on the other end, you were told as a child, God does not want you to have sex before you're ready or before marriage or whatever. So, somehow, you have this idea of sex being associated with sin.
So, even though you may be married or even though those things may technically be resolved within yourself, you may not feel resolved about that.
Okay, sex and emotions are a little bit like a ping pong ball. No pun intended!
It's a little bit like a ping pong ball that is bouncing back and forth between your sexual life and your emotional life.
Your sexuality is one of your life forces. It is one of the things that make your life just pop!
Again, no pun intended.
It is what makes your life so enriching, so powerful, so strong. Some of the other things that make your life like that are your family, your friends, your children, your parents, your significant other, your boyfriend or girlfriend, husband, or wife. Other things that make your life feel like that are your work if you really love your work or your career. You really love being that person.
And your sense of self. What you think about yourself. How you think of yourself as a person. How, mmm, I'm strong, I'm motivated, I have this spirit, I have this vivaciousness, this risk, this risk assessment, this comfort with risk, this strength. Maybe you have a soft heart, and you're that kind of person, and you're kind and you're gentle and you're good to people.
So, your view of yourself also affects how you have sex.
Maybe you're a good girl or a good boy, and sex is the forbidden fruit. This exciting new thing.
And maybe sex for you is that, until it stops being exciting, but by that time, maybe you're in a more committed state.
So, that's a very healthy way of looking at sex,
if you're that type of person and you see things in that way.
It's not that sex is bad or that sex is associated with evil beings like forbidden fruit, but sex is good, and if you're seeing it in that healthy light and way, and then you see it in a more committed way later on, when the excitement wears off, that's a very healthy way of adjusting to changes in your perspective about sex.
On the other hand, if you're kind of a bad boy or a bad girl and maybe you like how exciting sex is in the beginning, and you're not sure what to do with it after it becomes more stable and more steady.
Or, the opposite can be true.
You may think that sex is always boring in the beginning, but the more you practice it, the more you work at it, the more you can really jump up your game with this person.
I will say that sex with one person increases with pleasure with that person over time.
So, if you ever have the situation where you have bad sex in the beginning, don't worry about it.
The sex will increase with more practice with that particular person.
Even if you're really good at sex, even if you have a reputation for being good at sex, in the beginning you may have bad sex or awkward sex or just not as good as you normally are with one particular person, but if you practice sex with that particular person, they'll get better at it with you, you'll get better at it with them, and that unique situation of you with that particular person will just spiral upward and it will be really great.
Okay, so let's talk about how sex and emotions can affect each other positively and negatively.
When you have conflicting emotions about sex and about what you're doing with sex, that is the biggest thing that can fuck you up.
It has very little to do with how you're having sex or whether or not you're having sex. Because, actually, you can not be having sex and still have conflicting emotions about sex.
So, over here, in the emotional category, if you're not able to think about, Okay, how do I feel about these different things? Why do I feel those things?
Did those beliefs serve me at another time, but they don't serve me anymore?
Do I now need to get rid of some of those beliefs?
Be self aware of conflicting emotions about sex. It's one of the most important things you can do for yourself. And for your sexual partner.
One of the best things you can think of is, Okay, how was I raised to think about sex?
How was I raised to think about sex in legitimate terms and in illegitimate terms?
How was I raised to think about sex with the person I'm currently with, about my husband or wife, boyfriend or girlfriend, or just a fling, a one night stand.
So, it's important for you to be aware of how you view your sexual history, and your emotional sexual history.
It's also important for you to be aware of how you would like to feel about sex.
Because we all view sex in very different ways.
Some people want to view sex in a very sacred way. It's a very sacred, private, special thing that should only occur between two people and it should not be taken lightly and it should not be done lightly.
And some people want to view sex as one of the aspects of a whole spectrum of their overall, whole sexuality, and that their sexuality should be exercised at all times, whether it is sexual speech, sexual dress, actual sexual acts, and all of the spectrum of their sexuality.
They bring that to the forefront of their world and they show their power and their forcefulness and their strength and they own themselves in this way.
So, it's important that you really, truly own who you are as a person.
It's important that you understand how you view sex now and how you would like to ideally view sex on your own terms, outside of God, outside of religion, outside of family, outside of community, outside of all the things that are also influencing you and that have influenced your emotional history of sex. It's important to know how, Okay, how would I like to view sex?
Just me. Nothing inside of these walls but me. Just me.
And to be self aware of that.
You may have to make some decisions as to say, You know what? I used to think this, and I used to think this was the case, but I don't think that anymore. I don't think sex is bad anymore. I don't think that sex is purely a marital thing anymore. Or, I don't think that sex is a sin anymore. Or, I don't think that a woman can't initiate sex anymore. Or that a man can't be more sexually aggressive if he would like to be in the bedroom and his woman is okay with it, or his partner is okay with it.
So, guys, it's important for you to understand what beliefs about sex that you may have had about situations about yourself, and that you may need to evaluate those beliefs and say, Okay, are those beliefs still serving me?
If they're not still serving me, what can I do to alter them or get rid of them or do something to where I now feel like I'm being served completely by all my beliefs.
Guys, you do not serve your beliefs.
Your beliefs serve you.
Your beliefs serve you.
So, when you look at your beliefs, they have to be things that serve you and that make you feel better and make you stronger and more powerful and stronger and more fulfilled and more well rounded versions of yourself.
They are not there for other people, other people telling you what you should be doing. They're there for you to say, Okay, What do I determine? What are my rules? What is my personal assessment of laws and what my rules are? What do I want out of sex? What do I want out of the feeling about sex?
How do I feel about sex? And what do I want to feel about it?
So, guys, when you're looking at sex and emotions, a lot of it has very little to do with the actual sexual act.
I say this, having a lot of experience in this area, in both ways that I was happy with how my sexual connection affected my emotions and how I was unhappy with it.
I was always very self aware as to how I'm being affected by that, emotionally and non emotionally. There are times when I wanted a one night stand and I knew why I wanted one. And there were times when I wanted a relationship before I had sex, I wanted a good, solid, strong relationship before I had sex with that person, and I knew why I wanted that.
But, I didn't start out that way, guys.
I started out not really knowing and just experimenting with a lot of different ways, and understanding what I wanted then, and then as I grew, you know, your wants and your needs and your desires shift to different areas in your life.
And so, throughout my life, speaking personally, throughout my life, my view of sex shifted and has altered and it's been different depending upon what I personally needed at that time. And what I knew and what I was aware of the fact that I needed.
I never just jumped into something or jumped into some decision without thinking about why I'm making this decision. Why am I doing what I'm doing? And I was always very aware of these things.
So, guys, I would love to hear your thoughts about sex and emotions. How sex affected your emotions, positively or negatively, and how your emotions affected your sex life, either positively or negatively.
I would love to hear your personal stories.
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Today's question is brought to you by Emily.
Okay, I've got her question right here.
My husband and I have been married for many years, but we have kind of been doing the same thing over and over again for the past ten years. Do I need to leave our relationships alone or do I need to actually do something about spicing it up?
Okay, everyone, I'm Rita Gehman, with Intuitive Woods, and this channel is about bringing personal security to you through understanding of life.
Now, Emily, your husband may be happy with the way things are. You may not be, or vice versa.
Or you may both be fine, but you're just kind of wondering if you need to do anything, in other words, are you fine? Do you need to do something?
Is everything okay?
First of all, I want to say that a lot of times when we watch our favorite shows, like our favorite TV shows and movies, we do see a lot of drama there and a lot of discontentment that doesn't necessarily exist in real life. So, I do want to warn you that you may be worried that he's unhappy when in fact maybe he's just not unhappy.
That is a possibility. Sometimes, our favorite TV shows affect how we think about our real relationships, and reality is absolutely not the same as TV or movies. It's not the same.
Things are scripted, and they're scripted for our entertainment pleasure, but they are not real life.
The second thing I want to say is if you've noticed any discontentment in your husband, the first thing I would do is ask him. Is there something on your mind? Would you like to change something about our relationship? Is there something else going on? That's the first thing that I would ask him.
And give him a lot of time to reply back.
Don't demand an answer right there, because he may have been....
First of all, men like to work things out on their own. So, they're not very social creatures. Even extroverted men are not as social as extroverted women.
Outgoing men are not as social as outgoing women.
So, that's the first thing.
Second of all, understand that if he's working something out or if he needs to deal with something and he does want to tell you about it, he may be still figuring out how he's going to bring it up with you.
Now, if you're like me, and you're a little bit of a volcano sometimes, and I'm a little bit of a volcano sometimes, you may find yourself in a position where you kind of default on your normal way of reacting to things.
Now, he may be thinking about that.
So, you may have to show him that you can choose to not be a volcano, sometimes. You may have to show him that. You may have to kind of be like, "Honey, I want you to know that even though I normally kind of blow up at you, I am worried about this and I'm concerned and if there's something that you want to talk about, I promise to keep myself under control. I promise to... you know..."
So, that's another thing that I would definitely think about.
Also, perhaps he's not the one who is unhappy.
You may have noticed some differences in his behavior and the way he's relating with you, or maybe you're just not sure.
But, if he's not showing anything and you're just not sure, you might consider the fact that maybe you are not sure if you want some changes in your own life.
And it's fine if you do. It's perfectly fine if you do.
If you want changes in your life, woman, go out and get them!
But I will say this.
The way you don't rock the boat with your husband, who may be perfectly fine with the way things are right now, the way you don't do that is to keep things as familiar for him as possible in all of the other areas of your life except for the area that you're changing.
Now, he will have to grow up and be a big boy and deal with the area that you're changing, but if he's in the position of having to adjust to something quite large or some big change that you're about to bring about in his life or a different type of personality or whatever that you're showing now, if he's having to adjust to that, make sure that all the other areas of his life are very familiar.
People can handle change, as long as it's not total change.
As long as it's sandwiched in between familiar things.
People can handle change as long as it's sandwiched between familiar things.
This is in The Power of Habit by Charles DuHigg. He talks about when introducing brand new songs and brand new things to people, the new songs have to be sandwiched in between familiar songs. Otherwise, people will tend to not accept them. People will tend to be like, "Okay, this is too much. I can't handle this change. It wasn't what I thought."
But, if the song is sandwiched in between two familiar songs, people will become a lot more open to that.
And I know that I, myself, throughout my life I've been pretty much resistant to change, but as long as there are predictable areas of my life that are most of my life, I can handle change a hell of a lot easier.
So, I would recommend you doing that with him if you, yourself, are actually looking for the change.
Alright, Emily, I hope that helped you.
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