Monday, September 19, 2016

Sex Shaming - Don't Sex Shame! - It's Very Bad!!!

Hello everyone! My name is Rita Gehman, with Intuitive Woods!
This video is about Sex Shaming!
I'm going to take just a minute and tell you about my channel.
My channel is about making life easier to understand, and therefore, easier to navigate.
I did NOT grow up with people who understood life very easily. I did not have the security that most children are supposed to have. I did not have the emotional intelligence in my parents that most children are supposed to have. Thankfully, all three of us have grown up since then. Yay! But, we all had to find our own individual paths to growth. We were not actually able to help each other grow. So, it was very difficult for a good portion of our lives, for all three of us.
Now, this channel is about helping people understand things and know things that will help make life easier, more understandable, human nature, understand human nature, understand how certain things in life work, esoteric topics, really non-solid topics, and emotions, socialization.
I did not have security back then. But, I have security now. And I want to spread that security to all of you guys! So, that's what my channel is about.
Okay, this video is about Sex Shaming.
A lot of people put down sex and they put down sex shaming. There's a whole big thing about this! It's like, What's going on? What's going on?
Sex shaming is about when people put down sexually active adults who are not in monogamous relationships or who are not married or who are not doing what these other people think that they should be doing, so then they shame that person into this attitude that, Oh! Well, you should be ashamed of what you're doing! Don't you feel ashamed?!
Come on, guys.
They put them down. Some people put them down privately to their face and sometimes they put them down publicly! And it's like, Come on, guys! Sex shaming is another form of.... It's like discrimination. What sex shaming does is it doesn't actually produce the effect that you're wanting to produce. People who are engaging in sex shaming are actually trying to help the people who are engaging in what they believe to be illicit or not correct sexual behavior, whatever that may look like at whatever degree or level that may be. They're trying to help those people understand that, Oh! Life is so much happier and so much steadier and more secure if you have a more conservative life approach, if you have more conservative beliefs, if things are steadier, and more traditional.
Now, I'm a traditional girl, myself, but I also have some pretty modern behavior, so I kind of engage in both sides of that. I'm a traditionalist at heart in some areas of life and I'm a feminist or a modern woman at heart in other areas of life.
So, I'm good with either scenario. And I want everyone to know that I support whatever beliefs you have, because I'm an American and we live in America, and even if we don't agree with people, even if we don't agree with what our neighbors or family members or spouses or our kids are doing, Come on! We should still accept each other. We can still accept what all of us are doing and accept that, number one, we may not know what their lives are like and we may not know what their background is like, we may not have had the life experiences that they've had so we may react to life a little differently than they did. And, to be perfectly honest, even if none of that is true. Even if we can't put ourselves in the other person's shoes, we can still fucking actually accept somebody just because that's the thing to do! You can accept somebody even if you disagree with them, even if you don't think that they're right, even if they seem a little off, a little off kilter, a little stupid, or a little insane. It doesn't matter! We can accept everyone.
So, guys, I want you to know that if you're engaging in sex shaming, I still accept you. I still love and accept you. I don't agree with you. I don't want to engage in the same thing that you're engaging in. But, I still accept you.
Now, I have to talk about my own life here, because I used to be the kind of person who absolutely, positively could NOT handle certain situations. For a lot of time, I didn't understand homosexuals. It's not that I was intolerant of homosexuals. I just really wasn't sure what their thing was.... haha! Well, each other.... but, I really wasn't sure how to go about understanding them. So, that was going on for a long time, and then I got over it, and then I started understanding them, and it was all good.
The same thing happened with single mothers. I've always been real paranoid about being a single mother, myself, because I was raised in such a very strict, orthodox, traditional environment. It was half about the shame, and it was also about the experiences of... My life has been hard enough. I've lived through family abuse, I've lived through all kinds of emotional, lack of emotional intelligence, lack of being able to handle life, I've been homeless twice, it was SHITTY as FUCK, guys! It was so bad!
And then I come across this approach of having the ability to grow myself emotionally, to grow my emotional intelligence. I have the ability to be more open and use my emotionality more, and actually be more emotionally expressive, but also to have more emotional intelligence, which has nothing to do with emotionality. It has to do with being able to handle life! Being able to just handle life.
So, I went through all these stages and they were real hard on me, but half of my problem with being a single mother back then was the shaming and just thinking, Oh God! I don't want to be one of those women!
Sorry if you're one of those women, okay? I don't think like that, anymore. I used to think like that. I don't think like that, anymore.
But, at the time, it was like, there was half of that, and the other half was, My life has been hard enough. I've been homeless twice. It was shitty. It was bad. I've gone months where, for one or two weeks out of the month, I was starving. I didn't have enough food. And this was with or without roommates. It really didn't matter. I was just... God! My energy level was at such a starvation level. It was just so low, and Oh, God! It was shitty!
A lot of my engaging in sex shaming myself, and I'm not being a hypocrite here, I'm saying that I used to engage in sex shaming myself, not only on myself but also on other people I did this.
To me, it was one thing if a woman was emotionally intelligent and she was, say, divorced or something like that, or widowed, and she had children, to me that was one thing but for a young mother to just be out being all emotionally irresponsible and then to have kids, as well, it was like, I grew up in that scenario!
I grew up with a woman who had children when she herself was about four years old, emotionally, and she had the ability to handle life up to the age of four, and not beyond that!
I was abused so many times by this woman. And, in multiple ways! And it wasn't because she was a bad person. She was a bad mother, but she was only a bad mother because.... she actually tried to be a good mother! She was actually pouring as much as she could into being a good mother! But, she had low emotional intelligence, which meant that she couldn't handle more than one little piece of life at the same time.
Now, low emotional intelligence affects us all, guys.
Whenever we're growing up, whenever we're teenagers, entering adulthood, entering monogamous relationships, entering parenthood. Oh my God! Emotional Intelligence hits you like a brick wall. You've got to be able to handle life. And, in the beginning, you don't! In each stage of your life, whether you're a kid becoming a teenager, whether you're a teenager turning into an adult, whether you're separating from your family so that you can be more independent and more self sufficient, whether you're getting married, whether you're buying a house, whether you're settling down, whether you're traveling, whether you're staying still, whether you're having children.... All of these that I've just named are different stages of your life. And at each new stage, guess what?! You're going to have low emotional intelligence.
That's the reality of the situation. You're not going to know how to handle it. And, because you're not going to know how to handle it, guess what?! You won't be able to handle it. And it will be shitty as fuck. And it will be shitty as fuck for a little while, and then you start to learn how to be able to handle it.
The problem is, if kids are growing up in a poverty environment, and I do mean a poverty environment, guys I'm not ragging on poor people, I was poor myself! But, if you're growing up in a poverty environment, then you're in an environment where you're not able to thrive, you're just surviving. You're stressing out every month about paying the rent, paying bills, paying for food, and the fact that we all need a little bit extra besides just the surviving, and if you don't have any money left over, then both you and your family are all like, Oh Fuck!
Or, you're spending yourselves way further than you should. And, either way, it's shitty! Either way, it's a crappy situation to be in.
So, guys, emotional intelligence is something that you're not going to have every time you start a new stage of your life. You're going to be really incompetent every time you start a new stage of your life. And that's just the fact of the matter! That's true. That's going to be true at each stage of your life. It doesn't matter how mature you are, it doesn't matter how easily you're able to handle things, when you start a new stage of your life, a brand new stage, you're not going to have emotional competence in that area. If you've been married before, successfully, and you're now widowed, it doesn't matter.
New marriage, new levels of low emotional intelligence.
Okay, so now we're getting back to sex shaming.
A lot of years in my life, I didn't know what I was doing. And I knew that I didn't know what I was doing. I knew that I didn't have the life experience, I didn't have the knowledge, I didn't have the depth of wisdom, and I knew these things about myself.
I wasn't kidding myself. I wasn't like, Oh, well, you know, whatever, life is good, I think I know what's going on, I know what life's about. No, no, I knew I didn't know these things.
I was aware of the fact that I didn't know. At least that was helpful. At least that kept me from jumping into things that I was kidding myself that I was able to do. Now, that didn't stop me from jumping into some things that I was kidding myself that I was able to do when I couldn't, I couldn't handle it, but I tried. I still kept knowing that, Hey, maybe I'm not able to handle this, but at least it will give me the life experience to someday handle it.
So, sex shaming is a really big deal, guys!
You have to be able to accept other people even when you don't feel like that yourself. I had to learn how to accept other people, even though I didn't understand how they could have possibly gotten themselves in that position, because I never would have got myself in that position. I did get myself into a lot of other positions that my family didn't agree with, my friends didn't agree with, that everyone thought was stupid, whatever. But, I did, at least, purposely get into those situations. I did go into them knowing, Hey, I'm probably going to make a fool out of myself, but at least I'm willing to risk something.
I was comfortable with developing my level of risk. I was comfortable with doing that, and all the people around me were not comfortable with doing that. And so they thought I was being foolish or stupid or just unwise, but the thing is, I was getting into those things knowing that failure was a probability and knowing that I may have....
I got myself into renting situations where I couldn't pay the rent and I knew that before I even started, but I still tried to kid myself to say, Okay, maybe that will give me motivation to come up with the money!
And for quite a long time, I was able to do that, for several of my rent situations.
I figured out that I needed to test myself and prove myself on that.
The same thing with relationships. I would put myself into relationships, whether it was friendships or sex or love or whatever, I would put myself into relationships where I didn't know what the hell was going on! I mean, I didn't know what I was doing! And I knew that I didn't know what I was doing.
I knew that I was really inexperienced at this and I was probably going to fail.
But, I did understand the importance of risking things, and at least working on myself, my personal development, my self development, my self growth, by putting myself in the position of being in these friendships or relationships so that I myself could grow.
Again, I understood there was a probability of failing, and I was okay with failing because, to me, failing was not an indicator of whether or not I was successful. Learning through the process, learning through the very painful, rocky process that I knew I was about to go into, to me, learning from that process was my goal.
So, in all of those ways, I was very successful!
And I was very proud of myself for doing that. I was very proud of myself for being successful in those ways. I didn't ever go out of there thinking, Oh, well, I wonder what happened there.
No, no, no. I never had that attitude. Every time shit was going down, every time my life was really crappy, money, relationships, love, lack of emotional intelligence, lack of being able to handle things, health, whatever the situation was, I prided myself on being able to at least say, Okay, I went into this with my eyes open. I knew what I was going to do. I knew how I was going to do it. And I knew that failure was eighty percent likely, and that's not the reason why I did this. I did not do this for the chance of succeeding. I did this for the life experience. And to be able to sit down, even in a very emotionally fraught, stressful situation, and I knew I was going into this, even a situation where I knew it would be rocky and uncomfortable and have high discomfort. I knew that I was doing it for the life experience. I was doing it for the depth of understanding and wisdom that it would give me.
So, I had a lot of confidence in myself in at least having that as my level of success. Whether I was able to sit down and just understand things better and have that life experience.
I was able to do that every time! Because I never just fooled around just going, Oh! It's this person's fault. It's this person's fault. I didn't have a very high attitude of blame. I had a very high attitude of, Okay! I'm hear to learn! I'm not here to be comfortable. I'm not here to succeed. I'm not here to do any of that. I'm here to learn! And it's going to be horrible, and I'm going to hate it, but as long as I'm going through this process, I'm learning. That's what I'm here to do, and that is my measure of success.
So, guys, when it comes to sex shaming, if you've ever engaged in sex shaming yourself, please understand that I have done it myself. I've engaged in sex shaming, whether it was openly or privately in my head, but I still have judged people based upon how sexually promiscuous they were or how sexually active they were. Guys, there are people in our lives who, even thought they have been traditional and steady for their whole lives, some of them did regret not having had a period of their life where they had the wild, crazy stage.
I knew what age I was when I needed to go through that stage, and I went ahead and went through that stage. And it wasn't so much.... Actually, during that stage, I was a virgin. I was a virgin on purpose. I was waiting for marriage. I thought I was going to continue waiting for marriage. But, I didn't lose my virginity until I was 24. But that didn't mean that I didn't mess around with people. And that didn't mean that I didn't date a lot of people who were sexually active since they were 16 or 14, or really young. But, I thought I was waiting for marriage, so I waited for a long time, and that was having a very high sex drive. So, I have a very high sexuality, a very high sex drive, but I kept things at a very controlled state. I had a high amount of self control. I had a high level of self control. Now, I didn't go around and just whore myself around. I did enjoy being wined and dined. I did enjoy dating. I enjoyed being flirted with, I love flirting. Still, to this day, I love flirting. I love that. I love complimenting people in a flirtatious way. And I love snuggling around with people and I love touch, but because I knew that virginity was not something that you could just go back on, it was a one way street, it took me a long time before I was even ready to approach that subject. And I knew that, and so I kept myself away from that for that reason.
Now, I know many people who are sexually active from a young age, but they grow up emotionally and they don't continue that behavior for the rest of their lives. And there are people who value those years when they were sexually promiscuous and they were very wild and crazy, because they felt like, I needed to get that out of my system before I went into the settled down stage, got together with a good woman who was similar to me, and who may have had the same past that I have, and we're more mature, and we're both grown up, and we're able to get together and actually have a steady, traditional kind of relationship, having had the life experiences that we've had to kind of back up our knowledge and our wisdom and our understanding of what's going on in the world.
And I admire people like that. They own their past. They accept and they love and they respect and own their pasts. And guys, that's what sex shaming is all about. When somebody is engaging in sex shaming, it's because they don't consider themselves to be fully developed as a person. Whether it's consciously or subconsciously, there's something about themselves that, to them, seemed incomplete.
And so there's a need to have strict guidelines, strict boundaries of other people that they would not otherwise have if they would not otherwise have. There's a need for these people to engage in very strict, very controlling behavior, saying, You should be doing it this way and going through life this way! You should be a virgin or waiting for marriage or you should be not so sexually active!
You should take life more seriously. You should respect yourself more!
Okay, maybe all of those things are true, but that's not the path that person is on. That person is on a different path. They're on a path where they need to work through their own emotional issues or life experiences or lack thereof or growing thereof of emotional intelligence. They need to work through what their priority list is.
They have the priority list of growing up, getting married, and having kids, and then working on self development and self growth and personal development. And that is their list of priorities.
Then there are other people, people like me, who want to do self growth, self development, and personal development FIRST, those are their top three choices, then they want to buy a house, get married, and have kids. And that is OUR list of priorities.
Guys, come on! I've engaged in enough sex shaming myself and judging of other people myself to know that this is not comparable! Their lives are NOT comparable to MY life!
They will eventually get to where they need to be. I will eventually get to where I need to be. And the two are not the same!
All of the things on that list are important: Family is important, Children are important, Have somebody that you can love and rely upon is important, Having external family around you is important, You support system is important, AND personal growth, personal development, high emotional intelligence, high social intelligence, high mental intelligence. ALL of these parts are a part of the whole picture, all of life. All of these things are majorly, majorly important. All of these things have high, high value!
And, I think that because we go through life in a certain order, we go through life feeling like either made a mistake by putting one of these things before another and our parents did it differently or we were raised differently, that we think, Oh! I need to encourage and advise other people to do certain things in their life first! To do certain things in a different way!
The truth is, guys, each of our lists of priorities have all of these components in them, but they are in a different order. So, the only difference between your growth and my growth is how we order our list of priorities. All of those elements that I've just mentioned are in all of our lists of priorities, but for some of us, we need to have certain things done first.
For instance, because I was raised by a woman who did not grow up entirely emotionally on the inside, we're not even talking about growth past normal, we're talking about getting up to the level of normal. Because, again, she was in her thirties, she was actually in her twenties when she had me, she was in her thirties when I was younger and she was not even at her own normal level of development when she had me. She was at the four year old level of development. At that time, my father was the same way. He just expressed it in a different way. And the truth is, neither one of them were wrong. They were both doing the best that they could with what they had.
But because of that problem that I had, and how deeply it affected me.... as an Intuitive Thinker, My God! It got so down inside of me! There are people who could have looked at that situation and been like, Oh, yeah, it's a sucky situation and you'll just have to get over it and deal with this.
But, I didn't have that kind of personality! I did not have the kind of personality to take it like that! I had the kind of personality that was like I felt, as an Intuitive Thinker, I felt everything so deeply, on a very deep level, and I internalized everything so deeply! So deeply down inside of me!
Guys, I'm talking with a stuffy nose, so I'm going to take a break here. This is going to be really gross. I'm just going to blow my nose off screen. Don't worry, off screen. I'm just going to do this real fast, because I'm sure you guys don't want to keep listening to me talking with a stuffy nose. That's just nasty.
(blows sweet little nose)
I know you didn't want to hear that, haha!
Okay, one more time. I'm almost done.
Don't go away! I'm here!
Okay, I'm back.
The problem with judging other people because their list of priorities is different from your own is that you don't allow other people to just be human!
They're going about their lives in the way that they want to go about their lives.
Because my mom wasn't emotionally developed past the age that I was at that point, because it deeply affected me, not only was she abusive to me..... My dad was not abusive to me, but he was a little neglectful. He was neglected, and so therefore he didn't know how to express himself very much. She knew how to express herself but her temper was off the charts, it was really bad.
There was a lot of turmoil and a lot of instability, and I was a child, and I knew what was happening, and I knew that things were not as they were supposed to be, and I was very angry about it. And that anger was inside of me for many, many years. In fact, I still have a little bit of it left. I'm working on it. Every day, I work on it a little bit. I try to whittle down my behavior a little bit more.
So, what used to just set me off on a whole bunch of different areas now only affects me to where I only lose my temper on a couple of things, a couple of situations.
And, even now that I've done that, those two areas.... I do still react quite violently, quite in an extreme way, and quite in a bad way, but I have been growing so much on those two areas that they're actually down to half of what they were.
So, I can actually see how I have so much more self control, so much more emotional development in those areas than I had before. And, Oh My God! It's an enormous situation! It makes such a difference! It makes such a difference!
Guys, when you're engaging in sex shaming.... Now, a lot of you haven't engaged in sex shaming yourself, or you stopped doing it, but you've had other people talk to you in that way.
And so you're watching this video because you kind of want some emotional closure on that. Hey! I get that!
By the way, guys, you have emotional closure on that.
That's me giving you permission, saying, Okay! This subject can be closed and put away on a shelf, because it's been dealt with.
Guys, sex shaming comes from people who are not happy with their own development, so they're worried and concerned about other people's development. They are some people who are very judgmental to the extent of actually thinking that people who are not as correct as they think they should be, that those people are bad or evil or stupid, or any of the negative adjectives that you can stick in there.
But, the truth is, guys, they only feel that way because they are unhappy with their own personal growth. They're unhappy with their own personal development. And guys, even if someone is talking to you like this and they're being really hateful and nasty about it, think of yourself as the more experienced person, and think of yourself as the person who comes from a situation of wisdom and steadiness and personal insight into these people

Sunday, September 18, 2016

Sex and Getting Up Early

Hi, I'm Rita Gehman, and this video is about sex and getting up early.
This whole channel is about navigating through life easier, through a deeper level of understanding. Now, I was raised by people who did not have a deeper level of understanding of how the world works and how human nature works at the time that they were raising me.
Thankfully, we have all three of us grown us since then. But, at the time, I didn't have that. Now, life is navigated much easier by all of us.
I think life should be easy. That's my opinion, I think life should be easy.
In these videos, my whole channel is devoted to helping people understand human nature, how people interact, better socialization, and anything that helps make life much easier.
Okay, let's get started!
This video is about sex and getting up early.
When people get up early, they have time to do more in their lives than when they get up late.
Now, you may think that, Well, if you stay up and you get up late, it really doesn't matter.
But, toward evening, even if you're using lots of electric lights, your circadian rhythms start to slow down. In fact, your circadian rhythms really want and desire to slow down. You may be the one who is actually keeping the circadian rhythms off balance, off tilt, a little bit.
So, what this video is supposed to do is it's supposed to talk to you about how your sex life can be improved by you waking up earlier.
Now, when you wake up early every day and you actually get up early every day, that means that your circadian rhythms are more naturally aligned with not only the sun's cycles but the cycle of the year.
Now, the sun comes up later in the day in fall and winter, and we're going into fall and winter right now. But, this time of year requires you to make the most impact during the daylight hours than you would have to during the summer time when you would have a lot of daylight hours.
So, you still have to get up early, even in wintertime, even when it's still dark, because you still need to have that power, that punch, and have your energy at its very, very highest and having already used your energy at its very, very highest before the sun comes up in the wintertime.
Before the sun hits, because the sunlight in wintertime occupies a very short period of the day.
Now, we were talking about your sex life and your energy.
People who stay up late and wake up late, those people are forcing their rhythms to stay up past their circadian rhythm's natural flux, and they tend to get up past the natural, waking up, and growth cycle at the beginning of the day.
Even if you get up early, even if you get up before daylight on some days of the winter, it doesn't matter. The proper time to get up every day is around five (5) or six (6).
If you get up around five or six in the morning, then you've actually added about four more hours worth of energy to the middle of your day and about two more hours worth of energy to the end of your day.
That's six total amount of hours that you just added to your day.... worth of energy.
This means that you can get up and you can fuck better, you can have greater, more meaningful, deeper, more intimate sex. And then, at the end of the day, when you come home from work and you're with your partner, kids have gone to bed and everybody's happy and healthy and ready to go, you'll have all of this extra energy.
You'll feel relaxed and cool and smooth, not hot and tired and dry and itchy and gross that makes you kind of want to zonk out in front of a TV or hit a book or just go straight to bed, just go straight to sleep.
So, getting up early and having that extra umph to your sex life is a really big deal.
It's something that we would all want to have in our lives, and I myself have found this to be really helpful and it just adds so much more energy to your life.
So, whether or not you get up late and go to bed late, or you get up early and go to bed early, you would think that the two would pretty much be the same, because you're covering the same number of hours in the day. But, there's something that happens in the evening when your circadian rhythms are wanting to start slowing down that, if they don't slow down, you're in the position of having forced your rhythms to go further, and when you sleep in, you're missing a crucial part of the day that actually gives you naturally ten times as much energy, which will last throughout the day. It will not just be that much energy in the morning, when you might be thinking, Who cares, anyway. It will give you more energy for sex in the morning, and it will also give you more energy for the entire day.
Morning, afternoon, evening, and the rest and better sleep the next night.
And hey, I always support people having sex in the morning and in the evening. Having sex twice a day, Whew! That really keeps your circadian rhythms going. It actually puts your body back into a better circadian rhythm.
So, use the sex and getting up early in tandem with each other and use them together in kind of a cyclical way, in the morning, in the evening, and start moving your schedule back a couple of hours, earlier a couple of hours, in order to keep things at this really vibrant, high energy, feeling relaxed and cool at the end of the day, rather than hot and tired.
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Wednesday, September 14, 2016

Making Space for Romance, Family Relationships, and Friendships

Hello, everyone!
I'm Rita Gehman, and I'm here with Intuitive Woods.
I'm relaxing on my black leather couch right now. I'm trying to get my black kitty to get up here and join me.
Come on, Oakley!
He may or may not come.
You know how cats are.
Anyway, today's video is about when you make room in your life for romance and for parental love and for child love and for family connections, your siblings, all the different... your friends, your community.
I have a long history,  family history, of my family not making room for the things in their life, they have a contracting energy rather than expanding energy, and so when I'm looking at things like relationships, I have to understand that I have an environmental predisposition to not really allow new things into my life, not really allow new people into my life.
And that is such a dangerous things, guys.
Oh my god, that is such a dangerous thing.
Because life itself wants to grow. Life itself wants to get bigger and stronger and better and it just wants to expand and become fuller, and....
I guess the kitty's not coming.
Anyway, life wants to expand and grow. That is the nature of life.
But, if somebody has lack of comfort with themselves, lack of comfort with the world, then they tend to have contracting energy.
They tend to have energy that just (contracting sounds), contracts in on itself, rather than being expansive and warm and growing and learning and expanding and filling up the space, and then dashing that spaces to pieces, and filling up the next space, the bigger space.
That is the nature of humankind. The nature of human kind is to be expansive.
So, when you have contracting energy, it's anti-life. It's a little anti-life.
So, you should know that it's okay to rest.
It's okay to take time for yourself and be warm and good and rest, and it's okay to take a long rest, too.
It's good for you to take long and regular breaks, long and regular rest breaks.
This is particularly true for women, but it's really true for men, too.
We all need those rests.
I think rest and sleep are under valued in today's Western society.
It doesn't seem to be undervalued in Eastern society, but it's under valued in Western society.
I really encourage you to just (deep sigh of relief) take a deep breath.
FEEL the Universe coming inside of you and expanding you and being bigger and bolder and better than it is.
The cat is now over there on the table, and I'm tempted to go bother him.
Maybe in a little while.
So, when the Universe is filled with all of these possibilities, it makes me know that, as a human being, I don't have the capabilities for every single possibility out there.
It's not that I don't have the time or the ability.
I do have both! We all have both!
But, my nature, it wants to control and be precise about what it's doing, and it wants to kind contract in on itself a little bit.
But, the thing is, I get better when I grow, and I grow when I learn new things, and I learn new things when I expose myself to new things and I don't just stick to a rigid schedule.
Now, I do need a rigid schedule, because I have a very watery nature, so I need to compartmentalize myself when it comes to my schedule, my time, but just doing that is not the solution.
I have to be able to expand on everything that I'm doing.
Like, today I'm making a thirty minute video and normally I make shorter videos and I want to start making longer videos, and I need to allow myself to expand into that and allow myself to have something that good, that wonderful.
When we're all looking at things like time and love and relationships, we tend to want to put relationships and other people into these compartmentalized spaces.
And the truth is, you can really only do that if you only have quality time.
For people who see each other day in and day out, you need to have enough time to spend around each other, or you need to have really specific times of the day when you sit down and have quality time together.
You can actually schedule people in your life if the times that you spend with them are quality time, they're pure unadulterated quality time.
A lot of us don't have the discipline to pull that off, though.
I myself sometimes just like hanging out with someone.
And I don't necessarily want it to be this ultra high vibration, high energy quality time experience all the time, which means that I need to make up for that by spending more time with them.
It may be cheaper time, but it's more time.
Something's got to give.
I can't just cut people out of my life.
That is a habit that I, personally, tend to have is that I have a habit of cutting people out of my life who are not convenient for me.
And it's a habit that I've been working on rectifying for the past five years.
I've been working on shifting that to building quality relationships and sometimes having a break from them and sometimes just expanding myself to where I can hold more, I can create more spiritual space for people.
So, this video is about creating the space for the people and the relationships in your life that you want to have.
If you want to have love, time, if you want to have romance in your life, you've got to have time for romance in your life.
You've got to have space for romance in your life.
And I don't mean creating the time and space when some beautiful woman shows up or when some amazing guy shows up.
No. No, I don't mean that.
There's something called The Vacuum Law of Prosperity.
And this is something that was really taught by Bob Proctor back in the day, but Bob Proctor is not the originator of this idea, even he learned it from his mentors.
The Vacuum Law of Prosperity involves if you get rid of something, you'll be able to replace it with something more later on.
In other words, the Universe hates a vacuum and it will fill it up with something much closer or something exactly like what you want.
So, for example, if you hate the curtains in your house, get rid of the curtains that you have.
If you want new and better curtains, don't worry about it if you can't afford curtains or you don't know where you're going to get curtains or you have no ability to go out and shop for curtains.
Don't worry about that.
If you want to have new and better curtains in the house, get rid of the curtains that you have!
Because, believe me, the Universe hates a vacuum and you're going to get tired of living in a fish bowl, and those energies are going to combine and it's going to create these sparks, these magical sparks, and it's going to come up with new curtains that you LOVE having!
But, it's really difficult to attract new and better curtains into your life if you don't get rid of the ones that you have.
You have to be willing to get rid of the ones that you have first.
That's the same thing with relationships.
If you have bad, negative relationships in your life and you want a more positive, fulfilling, amazing, so vibrant, rich, makes you feel so strong, like invincible..... if you want relationships like that in your life, you have to get rid of relationships in your life that are soul sucking, that are dragging you down, and that make you feel shitty and bad and like you need to sink more of your energy into them.
Relationships should be a dual benefit situation, where you give somebody else all this amazing energy and you make them feel really great and they do the same thing to you, and yet neither one of you are really losing energy on the deal.
Both of you are gaining Double Energy.
It's the Law of Exponential Increase.
But, there are people in your life... they may be the inspiration for other people, but they're not the inspiration for you.
For you just to interact with them, it requires for you to just sink all of your energy and all of your time and all of your time into just this one person, just to be able to have basic, steady interaction with them.
Things that between you and other people come very naturally and very easily, but between you and this one person, it's like (growls) I've got to sink all this energy just to have even a little bit of normal conversation with them.
And they may be inspirational for other people, so don't think that you're leaving them in the dust or anything, because you're not!
But, they're not inspirational for you.
You need to be able to let those people go in order to create new relationships in your life.
The truth is, some of us are able to have many, many, many close and good friends, some of us are able to have many, many light and casual friends, some of us only have a few, medium number of friends, and some of us really only get along with five people in the world, and if we get rid of one person, we might replace them with another, but we don't really ever have more than five friends in the world.
Whatever kind of person you are, however many people you attract into your life, that's going to tend to be the pattern that you stay on for the rest of your life.
Depending upon how deep you like to go with your relationships with people and depending upon how many people you enjoy having in your life, that number is going to pretty much stay the same.
So, if you want to have higher quality and better relationships in your life, you have to be able to and willing to get rid of some of the relationships that you have now.
Now, you don't have to get rid of everybody.
But, you should kind of sit down and think about, Hmm, is there anybody who I think is just not up to snuff? Is there anybody in my life who I'd kind of like to just get rid of?
If there are people in your life who you really want to just get rid of, you really don't want to have in your life, My God, make those people go out of your life First!
Get rid of those people first.
And you don't have to push them away.
Now if you want to push them away, go ahead and do it.
Sometimes, it's helpful to just allow them to float out of your life.
Sometimes, it's not a matter of saying "Ah! I'm not going to talk to you anymore! I don't want to be friends with you anymore!"
Sometimes, it's a matter of "Oh! I'm just going to allow this person to leave my life. They're no longer in line with my energy. I'm going to allow them to just drift away."
So, whatever method...
I tend to be the kind of person who cuts people off and just karate chops them out of my life or I am the kind of person who specifically tells them, "I don't want you in my life because I don't like you, anymore. Go away."
That's the kind of person I am.
There have been times when I needed to use the Allowance, the Allowing That Person to Leave organically, naturally, and smoothly.
And there were times when I needed to use that tool, and there are people who feel better only using that tool.
Just know that there are many ways of getting rid of people.
There are many different methods and techniques of allowing people to leave your life so that you can replace them with higher quality and newer and better and stronger people, better relationships, interactions with people that make you feel so powerful and good and strong and vibrant and new again.
So, it's important to always have those possibilities in your life.
Just know that, it's not that you're lacking time and it's not that you're lacking the resources or ability to fill your life with new and better people, it tends to be the fact that everyone tends to have only a certain number of people that they keep in their world.
Some people have a large number, some people have a medium number, and some people only have one or two or five people in their life that they want to be close to.
Well, that's fine.
Just know that that number tends to stay the same, no matter what, for long periods of time in your life.
So, if you're looking to have new and better relationships, you have to be willing to and able to allow some of your current relationships to kind of drift away from you, or to just go ahead and forcefully push them out of your life.
You have to be able to do it and you have to be willing to do it.
Now, if you're not financially able to do it, if you're not emotionally able to do it, I understand.
That's understandable, that's completely understandable.
But, if you're in a position where you really have the resources and the ability to get rid of them, and you know that this is not the kind of person I want. I want higher quality or more meaningful people in my life... you're going to have to get rid of those people in order to make The Vacuum Law of Prosperity work for you and bring in new people, because it's not very likely that you're going to grow the number of people that you know and interact with.
That is not very likely.
It is more likely that you're going to just replace the people that you have or some of the people that you have.
So, when we're looking at romance, you have to allow room and space for romance.
Now, you may not be in the position where you have to get rid of old romance in order to make room for new romance.
You may not have had romance in your life.
You may have to get rid of a habit of casual, sexual behavior in order to make room for romance in that state.
You might have to do that.
But, if you've never had a boyfriend or girlfriend, if you've never been in a long-term relationship, you may be in the position where making room....
Or maybe you've been divorced for several years and you just haven't had a significant other. Maybe you're not close with your children, and you don't have any best friends of the opposite sex, and so you don't really have somebody who's kind of standing in for the need that you have for a romantic partner.
Now, if you do have one of those things. If you either have grown children that you're close with, or you have a best friend of the opposite sex that you love having deep, meaningful conversations with or you have a lot of interaction and time with, well then they may be standing in for your romantic partner, and you may have to allow those people to go in order to make room for your romantic partner.
But, if you're not in any of those situations, you may need to just allow space to be taken up in your life.
If you go out and get a romantic partner and you're enjoying them and everything, you may need to understand that having them in your life means that they will take up time and they will take up space in your world, and you need to allow that to happen.
If you don't have anybody else who you're moving out of your life or that you're becoming more distant with in order to bring in your romantic partner, if that's not the case with you, if you're just now wanting to bring in a romantic partner, you may be in a position where bringing them in themselves involves allowing that person to take up more of your time and allowing them to take up more of your space.
And guys, that's going to be kind of scary.
If you haven't had somebody romantically in your life for a long time, and you're not replacing other people with them, then you may be kind of used to being alone, you may be used to having more contracting energy or more limited energy than you currently have.
Relationships are difficult, especially in the beginning.
Now, they don't tend to always be difficult after a certain number of years, but in the beginning, when people are just learning to figure each other out and learning each other's patterns of growth and how soon you can expect that person to grow into a new level of awareness and self development, things like that, that are tricky, that are complicated.
There needs to be a TON of communication, and hey, I'm not the biggest person on communication when it comes to talking to people. But, in recent years, I've become that kind of person, because I've had to be!
For me to have the relationships in my life that I want to have, I've had to all of a sudden become WAY more vocal than I ever was before!
So, that was definitely a factor for me. That was something that I needed to always be aware of within myself that I don't naturally have the inclination to be really vocal and really expressive, conversationally.
And I need to practice it like I would practice the piano, over and over and over again.
I need to get to where I not only get really good at it, but it's very comfortable for me.
Because things that I'm comfortable at, yeah, we're all going to tend to do those things more often.
So, the world around is so amazing and so full of possibilities of travel and homes and people and new experiences, but you have to be willing to allow the Vacuum Law of Prosperity to work for you.
You have to allow The Vacuum Law of Prosperity to work for you.
You have to be willing to sometimes replace what you currently have with the new stuff, and that's a little scary, because especially if you really need somebody in your life, if you're the kind of person who is a little bit codependent, a little bit needy, That's Okay!
That's okay to be that kind of person. But, if you're that kind of person, getting rid of a romantic partner or somebody else in your life who you normally emotionally rely upon, getting rid of that person, not having anybody else in your world to take their place yet, that's kind of a scary thought right there!
If you really want that new home and you want to have the ability to have a new home, getting rid of your current home that you're kind of comfortable in, you feel at ease in, and you kind of don't want to change that much, oh, getting rid of your current home can be SOOO scary.
The same thing applies with traveling experiences. If you're used to traveling around your state or your country or your area, and you're not used to traveling outside of your country and you're not used to traveling to the other side of the world, or something like that, oh man! Replacing your current location with a new location, that's Scary as Hell!
I mean, speaking as someone who has experienced a lot of culture shock in her life, culture shock is a scary ass thing!
It is Scary as FUCK!
And it's not just because you're in a different culture and so you're scared, we're not just talking about that, we're talking about the level of discomfort is so freaking high!
Because you are not in anything that you're familiar with.
Let me tell you about my First culture shock.
My very first culture shock was just spent in....
I live in Texas, in the United States.
And I was traveling to a different city in Texas, and I know all the cities in Texas, because I'm really well traveled in Texas and in the United States, just not as much in the world.
But, in Texas, there's another city, and I was traveling to that city, and I staid a weekend with a Vietnamese family.
A Vietnamese family who only spoke a little bit of English.
And they were having a family reunion that weekend, the weekend that I was going.
And, they ignored me!
They ignored me and spoke Vietnamese the whole fucking weekend!
And they were nice to me! Ohh, they fed me well and they made sure I was entertained and they tried to make sure that I had what I needed, but they didn't sink all of their time and energy into trying to speak simple English with me. They sunk their time and energy into interacting with each other!
Speaking in Vietnamese!
It was the first time that I had to make sure to take off my shoes before I went into the house!
They had perfect, plush, white carpet!
And it is in the Vietnamese culture to not walk through the house with your shoes on!
It's also European.
But, it's not American.
Well, they're American now, so I can't say that.
But, it's not in my culture. It's not in the culture that I grew up in. In the culture that I grew up in, we all walk around with our shoes on in the house.
Just all of these changes, all of these possibilities, it was just so uncomfortable! And the thing is, I was only gone for a weekend! I mean, that was it! I was gone for a weekend!
And yet, I got back to the city I was living in at that time, I took the bus back to the city I was living in at the time, and I was so happy to see McDonald's!
I was like, Oh! Thank God for McDonald's!
Now, I'm not one of those people who puts down fast food joints or anything like that.
I don't put things down like that. To me, fast food joints have their place in society. And, I enjoy fast food, myself! So, I don't think of that stuff as being junk food. I just think of it as being cheaper food and faster food, but not junk food.
But, I never understood how much I valued my own cultural norms until I was pulled out of them for just three days! I mean, we're talking about just three days. Just a weekend.
That was it.
But those three days were some of the emotionally most.... so straining on my emotionality and so straining on my emotional capabilities that it was just Whew! it was so, so stressful!
So, guys, when you're making room and space for love in your life and for family and for connections in your life, you have to understand that that's going to involve you being really open to sometimes replacing what you currently have with the new thing and the new objects and the new people and the new experiences and the new homes.
And guys, that's just not going to be comfortable, and you have to be comfortable with being uncomfortable.
You have to have a certain level of comfort with discomfort.
You have to be willing to have discomfort in order to experience new things and thus expand yourself!
Hey! Expanding yourself is worth it! It's so worth it! I love expanding myself! And so I'm in the habit of being willing to put up with a hell of a lot in order to get that done.
Okay, now I'm nearing the end of this video and I'm going to go over to the kitty, and I'm going to introduce you to Oakley.
This is a family cat and he is so, so sweet, and we all love him very, very much.
Okay, here we go....
Okay, say Hello to everyone, Oakley!
Say Hello to everyone.
This is Oakley the cat, and he is very black, as you see, and he is very lovable and he's very warm and soft and he's really amazing.
So, I wanted to introduce you guys to Oakley the cat.
Guys, I hope you have a wonderful day, and I hope this video was helpful to you, but please subscribe below. Please subscribe below and Like the video. I want to hear your comments. I want to hear your personal insights into making space and making room in your life and using The Vacuum Law of Prosperity to get the people that you want and the relationships that you want.
Thank you so much, guys!

Monday, September 12, 2016

Connecting with Your Inner Feelings

Hello everyone!
I'm Rita Gehman, and I'm here to talk to you about Inner Feelings.
I'm out here in my back yard, and I want to talk to you about when you don't connect with your inner feelings.
Now, this video is about how to make space for love in your life and to make some space for self love.
I'm going to do a video here in a minute about making space for romance and love and parental and child connections and sibling connections and family connections, but this video is going to be about making space for yourself and connecting with your inner feelings.
Now, as a Thinker personality type, I have a lot of brain-based traits, but I do Not have a lot of heart-based traits, so connecting with my inner feelings is more difficult for me.
I'm a more emotionally repressed kind of person, naturally.
That's just the way I am and that's the way I was born, but now that I know a lot of Feelers, I've been developing my emotional expression.
But, a lot of that has to do with being honest with myself.
Not everyone is able to be honest with themselves, as well as being successful.
You can be successful by kind of repressing some things, and sometimes, people can be honest with themselves, but it destroys them to do that, and so they're not able to be successful afterwards.
It's important for you to be able to do both.
We need to both be successful and be honest with ourselves.
And to do that, we need to be able to understand our inner emotions, and we need to be able to accept them, and forgive ourselves for anything that we don't like or anything that we think are bad or just so shitty.
So, guys, I really want to give you a couple of points here.
The first point is, I want you to think about how deeply your spirit and your person, your self, goes deep into the world.
You have such an enormous root system.
Whether or not you're aware of it, whether or not you spend time on it, you have an enormous root system that your personality and your self and your spirit goes down really, really deep down into this world and down into the spiritual depths, the spiritual womb of the universe.
So, you've got to think about how deep you go.
The second thing you need to do is you need to think about how much your self acceptance... how valuable that is.
If you don't have a lot of self acceptance, you're not going to be able to face your inner feelings. You'll have inner feelings and they'll be there, swimming around underneath, and they'll be affecting your behavior, they'll be affecting how you live your life, but you won't be able to do anything about it because they'll be hidden.
You'll be keeping them hidden, because you won't be accepting them, and you won't be accepting yourself.
So, self acceptance is like gold.
To be able to accept yourself is like gold, and guys, I want you to think about how valuable your self acceptance is.
So, those are the two points.
The first point is to understand how deeply you go down into the earth and into the soul and the spirit and the womb of the world,
and the second thing is to think about how much you're needed, how much you're needed, and how much accepting yourself, how valuable that is, that your self acceptance equals gold.
Your self acceptance is enormous.
So, you have to learn how to accept yourself.
I have other videos on this, and I'll talk to you guys about this later.

A Christian Girl Dating Muslim Men

A Christian Girl Dating Muslim Men
Growing up in a somewhat poor, but very polite, well-bred, white, Anglican society, I had a total of zero encounters with “Ay-rabs,” as my brother liked to call them. I was taught how to behave in polite, white society, and that is only society I was exposed to.
Enter the Internet, during my teen years.
I fell with a *Thump!* into multicultural interactions with men online. Then, college at a top-tier public university enmeshed me with the best roommates and the best Hindu and Muslim men a girl could date.
1.      Don’t Pit Your Religion against Your Date’s Religion
Even a pre-law major will know not to discuss something as personal to them as their perception of and relationship with God. Don’t do it. Avoid the curiosity and competitiveness brought on by your particular personality. Avoid it completely!
Instead, foster an attitude of openness and genuine acceptance for the pool that both religions swim in. Allow yourself to see both belief systems in a larger cosmic whole, and accept this larger, more expansive picture as part of your truth.
2.      When in Conflict, give Compromise, and then Perspective
If social traditions and personal bias should, indeed, rear their heads (as they so often do, when unbidden), don’t keep arguing your point! It will be harsh, extreme, overly aggressive, and will sound too biased… even when you are sure that it does not. It always comes across this way to other people, because you are speaking from a much stronger force of nature within you than you normally do.
Instead, back away from the subject and distance yourself from it. Then compromise their point of view a little bit. And follow this up with giving a more expansive, generic perspective on the matter. An example would look like this, “Oh, it’s okay that you don’t believe that Jesus Christ is the Son of God. I agree with you that he’s a great prophet. I enjoy studying all of our shared prophets, as well. We don’t have to agree on that point. Christianity and Islam have much more in common than they are different! I like both of our religions.”
3.      Connect with Their Family on Shared Interests and Avoid Differences
Chances are, if you meet your Muslim man’s family, things are a little further along than just casual dating. If, however, he wants to get their opinion of you before he makes a BIG decision about your relationship, he may introduce you sooner rather than later.
In either case, it is important to know in what areas to hold your own, and in what areas to defer to his family’s traditions and values. In all shared interests, such as cooking, eating, celebrities, electronics, higher education, etc. always interact with them on these topics as heavily as you can. If you love cooking and food, then allow yourself to be swept into the kitchen by his mother or sisters. Sample the food, help with the preparation, ooh and ah over the dishes, and express your delight with everything. This is especially important if you do not speak the same language as they speak.
In areas where you do not have shared interests, such as the religious divide, a cultural divide, and a language divide, avoid these topics altogether. If his family wishes to discuss these matters with you, shrug your shoulders and smile, and say, “I accept his traditions completely.” Avoid areas of potential problems, such as future interests. If someone asks you, “How will the children be raised?” simply smile and say, “They will be raised by both of us, and they will respect both of our traditions.”
Leave it at that.
You may have a plan, and your boyfriend may have a different plan, but none of this matters, because you will both work this out later on, between the two of you. For now, though, keep his family at bay by heavily connecting with them on shared interests, and staying emotionally distant and at peace on difference.
In conclusion, don’t worry too much or invest emotionally in how things will turn out with your Muslim man. We all have ideas for how to approach future subjects, but they may work themselves out or turn out differently than we expected. Allow this change to occur, and enjoy yourself in his arms!
is especially important if you do not speak the same language as they speak.

In areas where you do not have shared interests, such as the religious divide, a cultural divide, and a language divide, avoid these topics altogether. If his family wishes to discuss these matters with you, shrug your shoulders and smile, and say, “I accept his traditions completely.” Avoid areas of potential problems, such as future interests. If someone asks you, “How will the children be raised?” simply smile and say, “They will be raised by both of us, and they will respect both of our traditions.”

Leave it at that.

You may have a plan, and your boyfriend may have a different plan, but none of this matters, because you will both work this out later on, between the two of you. For now, though, keep his family at bay by heavily connecting with them on shared interests, and staying emotionally distant and at peace on difference.

In conclusion, don’t worry too much or invest emotionally in how things will turn out with your Muslim man. We all have ideas for how to approach future subjects, but they may work themselves out or turn out differently than we expected. Allow this change to occur, and enjoy yourself in his arms!

Sunday, September 11, 2016

EFT Treatment to Increase Confidence

Hello everyone! I'm Rita Gehman, with Intuitive Woods!
Today's video is going to be a video on strengthening Confidence and strengthening Assertiveness and Aggressiveness.
This is going to be an EFT Video, and if you don't EFT, then I suggest you look up "EFT Basics" here on YouTube. YouTube has many videos on that.
I'm going to assume you already know it and we're going to go ahead and get started.
Okay, first, you start tapping here.
Even though I would like to be more assertive, I deeply and completely accept myself.
Even though I would like to be more aggressive, I deeply and completely accept myself.
Even though I would like to be more confident and more assertive, I deeply and completely accept myself.
More assertive...
More confident....
I'm more aggressive...
I'm more confident...
I'm more assertive...
I'm more aggressive...
I'm more aggressive....
Underneath the breasts or pectorals, tapping under there.
Tapping in line with the nipple, about three or four inches underneath the arm.
I'm more aggressive....
I'm more assertive.....
I'm more assertive....
I'm more assertive.....
I'm more assertive.....
I'm more aggressive.....
Tapping on the Nine-Point Gamut.
Eyes open, eyes closed, eyes open.
Look hard down to the right.
Look hard down to the left.
All the way around one way.
All the way around the other way.
I'm more assertive...
I'm more aggressive.....
I'm more confident....
I'm Way more confident.....
I am eight times more confident.....
I am eighty times more confident.....
I'm eight hundred times more confident.....
I'm eight thousand times more confident.....
I'm eighty thousand times more confident.....
I am eight hundred thousand times more confident.....
I'm eight million times more confident.....
I'm eight hundred million times more confident.....
I'm eight billion times more confident.....
Guys, that's everything.
This EFT Treatment is brought to you by Rita Gehman, with Intuitive Woods, and understand that it was developed first by Gary Craig, and is continued in the tradition by many other masters.
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Friday, September 9, 2016

Science and Religion in the U S

Hello everyone! I'm Rita Gehman, with Intuitive Woods.
And this video is about Science and Religion in the U.S.
The United States is a very, very large, large country.
If you look at maps between your country and the United States, unless you are Canada or Mexico, there is a very large possibility that the United States is about eighty (80) times the size of your country.
And I did not say Eight, I said Eighty.
As in, 80.
So, because we have such a large country, and because we have so many people over here, we're not heavily, densely populated like some countries, such as Saudi Arabia or Pakistan, but because we have so much land area over here, we have a LOT of people over here.
We have a lot of immigrants, and we have a lot of people who just had a lot of babies.
So, science and religion in the U.S. We have a lot of different scientific theories and we have a lot of different religions in the U.S.
And our number one law here in the U.S. is to respect everyone's freedom of religion.
And it's very interesting that people are afraid that the U.S. will break this law. This is our First law. There is no other law higher than this in the U.S.
We respect people's freedom of religion.
Yes, some people can be a little stupid and a little intolerant of other people's religion, but our police force, our military force, and Most of our citizens are all very accepting of all people's right to choose and have different religions.
So, don't worry about the Very Few number of citizens who are kind of cranky about it.
Science and religion in the U.S..... a lot of people choose one or the other. They either choose science-based things and they are atheists, or they choose religious-based things and they don't go into science.
But, you should know that in the United States, MOST people have both beliefs, most people are both scientific and religious.
Now, it is not required for our science and our religion to be mixed together as it is in some other countries, especially heavily religious cultures.
In the United States, because everyone has freedom of religion, the scientific community and the religious community are kept separate, and the church and the state are also kept separate, almost completely.
So, whatever somebody does in their science or in their religion, it does not affect the other side, the other religion or the other science that they also believe in and they also know about.
So, we do not teach the two subjects together.
We teach them separately.
If you go to church or synagogue or mosque or temple for your religious teachings, and you go to school for your scientific teachings, and we keep those two things very separate.
So, that is the rundown of the Science and the Religion in the U.S.
Please tell me what you do in your country.
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Review of Nancy Drew Classic Series

Hello everyone! I'm Rita Gehman, with Story Time.
And this video is a review of Nancy Drew, The Classic Series.
Now, I was a Make-A-Wish child, which means that when I was younger I had a highly fatal disease.
Thankfully I got over that quickly!
But, I did have a Make-A-Wish trip, and I was able to get almost all of the fifty six (56) books, Classic Series of Nancy Drew series.
And it wasn't quite all of them, but now I have all of them.
But, I was able to get all 56 books, and it took up an entire shelf of my bookcase, plus a little bit more.
And it was amazing!
The series is amazing.
Nancy Drew and her friends, Bess Marvin and George Fayne, who are both girls and they're cousins, they go on these wild, crazy, awesome adventures.
And Nancy is neither Feminist nor Traditional.
She is this cool, clear, transitional character between the two worlds.
She embodies the traits, the best of both worlds, both the Feminist world and the Traditional world, and none of the negative characteristics of either world, and she is cool, clear-headed, clear tempered, and she gets shit done.
She's an amazing character.
The people who wrote the Classic Series, I believe it was a series of authors who all wrote under the name Carolyn Keene, and it was a collaborative effort, sponsored by a company.
But, I could be wrong about that.
Anyway, Nancy Drew, the Classic Series is phenomenal!
There are 56 books in the series. I strongly recommend that you go out and buy every single book.
First, test out a couple of them, make sure you like them, and then go out and buy every single book.
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Physician Assisted Suicide

Hello everyone!
My name is Rita Gehman, with Intuitive Woods.
This video is about Physician Assisted Suicide.
The two points are these.
One the one side people are afraid that if they support Physician Assisted Suicide, doctors will start making death decisions on who shall live and who shall die.
And that committees can be put together to determine people's worthiness to live and worthiness to die.
One the other hand, people who support a person's right to choose whether they live or die, especially if they are in a terminal illness, that means a fatal disease that can kill them, and if they are in extreme pain, whether they should have a choice or not to go ahead and end their life earlier than they would normally have ended it, so that they can be released from that pain.
So, those are the two points in the controversy of Physician Assisted Suicide.
My perspective is that doctors are so carefully and thoroughly trained over so many years that it is very difficult to find a doctor who is actually dishonest and who actually has somebody's best interests Not at heart.
So, when given the choice as to whether to assist someone with their suicide or not, I do support a doctor's right to be able to do that and somebody's right to be able to receive Physician Assisted Suicide, but I do understand people's fear about how that could be used for ill.
So, I would like to hear your comments on it.
Please comment below. What is your perspective on this?
What is your opinion on this?
I want to hear what your thoughts are.
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Dating Muslim Men

Hello everyone!
I'm Rita Gehman, with The Man Plan.
This video is about Dating Muslim Men.
This is specifically for women who are Not Muslim themselves.
I was raised Christian.
This applies to you if you're a Jew, you're a Christian, if you're Agnostic, Atheist, anybody.
If you're dating a Muslim man, you should understand that his religion has already primed him to be very respectful and quiet and peace loving and non-confrontational.
Muslim men, the vast pattern that overlies their whole culture is that they are very non-confrontational and they are very intuitive, and they have very high depth of wisdom.
Very deep depth of wisdom.
So, Muslim men have a certain quality to them, a certain feel to them that other religions do not share with the particular state of Islam.
Muslim men may not be virgins themselves but when they want to marry, they tend to prefer to marry virgin women.
But, this is not a requirement of theirs, so if you're not a virgin yourself, don't worry about dating Muslim men.
Even if they are virgins, they won't care.
If they love you, they'll Love you.
All men are like this. When a man is in love with a woman, he will be completely blind to whatever faults that his family may not be blind to.
Don't worry about meeting his family. His family will be fine with you.
All they need is some time if they're not able to adjust to it right away, then just give them some time. They will adjust to it eventually.
Always make sure that you're respectful and friendly and polite to their family, but don't try to just cater only to their family.
Just try to be nice and friendly and that's it!
Don't worry about it.
Muslim men may have deeply intense natures, and I don't mean in a bad way, I just mean they feel on a deep level, but they are impervious to other people's silly little squabbles.
So don't worry if their families don't like you right away.
If they're not worried about it, you shouldn't be worried about it.
If they say that it's a problem about their family, then don't worry about it.
Make it only about you and them, and their families will fall into line.
Dating Muslim men is highly rewarding.
They're wonderful, wonderful, soul filled men.
They're very soulful.
I personally love dating all types of men, but my favorite are Arabian Muslim men.
Those are my favorite types of men.
So, I've dated every religion of every man, every culture, creed, age, ethnicity. I've dated everyone.
But, my favorite are Arabian Muslim men.
They are very, very wise and intelligent men. I really respect them a great deal.
So, if you're going to date a Muslim man, you have my total support and freedom on this.
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If you experience dating Muslim men, I would love to hear your questions or comments, or anything like that!
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Dating between Christians and Muslims

Hello everyone!
I'm Rita Gehman, with The Man Plan.
This video is about Dating between Christians and Muslims.
Now, I was raised Christian, and I've dated quite a few Muslims in my lifetime.
I've also dated Christians and Agnostics and Atheists and Jews.
So, there are a lot of different religions out there and lot of different belief systems.
The truth is, Christianity and Islam have just about everything in common.
As much as we try to make it out to be an "us versus them" situation, where the two are very separate, the truth is, they are very similar.
So, if you're dating a Muslim and you're a Christian, you should know that their religion allows you to date them and to marry them.
The same thing applies with Christianity.
Islam is so similar to Christianity that if you are a Muslim and you are dating a Christian, the Christian religion allows you to marry them.
So, just understand that, as much as there may be some "social stigma" a little bit, people WILL get over this.
You don't have to worry about that.
And you don't have to worry about mixing your faiths, because your faiths are already so mixed and so intertwined, and you already have so much in common.
The next thing I want to talk to you about is introducing each other to your families, as your potential husband or wife, as a fiancée, or just as a boyfriend or girlfriend.
If your families have any problem with the situation, at all, even a little bit, please understand that they WILL get over it.
They just need some time to adjust to the situation.
They just need to get adjusted to the idea.
So, first tell them about it, and don't get offended if they react badly.
Just be polite and nice and friendly and happy about it!
Then, a few weeks later, bring it up again!
And introduce them to the person....again!
Maybe introduce the in-laws together...again!
Just get them used to each other.
That's it! That's all it requires!
I'm Rita Gehman, with The Man Plan, and this video is about Dating between Christians and Muslims.
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3 Lessons We All Learned from Nancy Drew

Hello everyone!
My name is Rita Gehman, with Story Time!
This is a video on three important lessons we have all learned from Nancy Drew.
Now, I'm referring to Nancy Drew, The Classic Series, by Carolyn Keene, not any of the modern renditions of Nancy Drew.
First thing we've learned from Nancy Drew is Persistence.
I mean, that girl knew how to keep pushing and keep going and even though she was very polite and steady natured about it, she still persistently pushed through and kept doing what she needed to do until she got the answers that she needed to get and got the results that she wanted.
Second thing we learned from Nancy Drew was how to keep a cool head. Nancy was never one for being overly emotional or overly dramatic, being emotionally unstable. She was always one for having a cool head and for keeping her temper even natured, even when she was dealing with extremely obnoxious, nasty, selfish, grotesque people. Things that would have made me fight and keeping fighting, she was irritated by them, she was annoyed by them, but she kept going in her steady, even tempered way.
So, that's a very good quality from Nancy Drew.
The third quality from Nancy Drew is how to date.
That girl had a very clear definition and idea of how to date, how to do what she wanted to do, and then enjoy spending time with her boyfriend, Ned Nickerson, whenever she wanted to!
Whether he was just a steady date or a boyfriend, no one really knows and no one Really cares.
He was always there for her, he was the classic male protection whenever she needed it, and she appreciated it and enjoyed it. She also, at the same time, didn't need to prove herself against it, as well.
She enjoyed Ned Nickerson as a man and she enjoyed her detective work as a detective, and there was no conflict between the two. They were each just a part of her life and a part of her self and a part of her world.
So, I madly respect the Nancy Drew character in The Classic Series by Carolyn Keene.
Guys, I really recommend that you subscribe below, comment below, and tell me what your favorite Nancy Drew story is, whether you like the modern series or The Classic Series, and I'll see you on the other side.
Thank you, guys!

Saturday, September 3, 2016

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